Ckdating.com Dating Tips
1. Be Honest
If you want to be trusted in your relationship you need to be honest with the person you are dating. Hidden secrets find a way to come back to haunt people in the future. Therefore, if you have a past that is not glaring find a way to discuss the relevant issues that would hurt your relationship in the future if things were discovered. This isn?t easy, but learning to be honest will improve your self-esteem and improve your relationship skills.
2. Dealing With Personal Fears
Do you have fears about dating? Many people have fears about dating (some fears are known and some are unknown). As you deal with individual fears such as saying the wrong things or not knowing what to say or do, you will begin to gain confidence. The best way to prepare yourself is to think about possible situations that may arise and think how you would respond. If you have made mistakes while dating in the past think through ways you could have effectively responded in the same situation. Learning to be a fun date does take practice.
3. Can I Learn To Date Again?
After a divorce, many people are worried about starting to date again. It is common for individuals to feel like starting over is helpless. Others ask themselves, "would someone really want me?" To this I suggest that you take some time to make yourself the best you can be. Work on improving your own self and self-esteem. Do things that lift you up and make you feel more confident. Once you have done this you will be more prepared to start dating. Dating requires confidence in self.
4. Expressing Love In Appropriate Ways
Our society has taught us that SEX is the most vital way of expressing our love. However, in his book "Finding the Love of Your Life", Dr Warren suggests that, "When sexual expression is not kept in check, the emotional, cognitive and spiritual aspects of the relationship become slaves to the physical desires". It is important of express love in many ways rather than in just one dimension, SEX.
5. Until You Know Someone
Dating is something that must be taken serious. Most people don?t just go out with anyone. A good idea to avoid a dating disaster is to date someone who has similiar values to you. If you are unsure of someone?s values be cautious. Until you know a persons values it is wise to be in public places or in places you are safe.
6. What Words Should I Use To Talk With A Girl?
Sorry it isn?t the words that will make you successful. Much more important than the words you use is the actions you display. For example, being a gentleman or showing kindness will make you successful. In addition the words you use have to be your own. If you are stuggling to find the right words practice what you might say. However, it is more important to learn to say what is in your heart rather than what is in your /files/includes/head.css. If you worry about what you are going to say you are thinking too much...let your heart talk and you will be more successful.
7. You Are A Person Of Worth
Too frequently we give a lot to the person we are dating. Then when they break up with us we feel rejected. Sometimes the person who breaks up does so in a rejecting way. In such circumstances, it is probably better that they broke up with you rather than leading you along. Furthermore, it is important to realize that if they broke up with you they probably wouldn?t have treated you as you should be treated. In far too many situations, the person breaking up will start acting unkind when they are going to break up. This shows their true colors and in many instances should be a warning sign. Remember you are a person of worth and should be treated as such.
8. If You Don?t Want To Go Out
Sometimes women struggle to tell men no when they are asked out on a date. Many women have told me that they are afraid of hurting the man?s feelings. If you don?t want to go, I recommend that you don?t go. It is much easier to tell a man in the early stages that you aren?t interested than it is to go and have a man bugging you for the next few days, weeks, or months.
9. What Attitude Will You Have?
Some people like blind dates because they get the opportunity to meet new people. Other people avoid blind dates because of the myth that blind dates are always bad. If you are willing to go on blind dates you do give yourself a better chance of meeting new people. If you are going to go out on a blind date make sure you have fun. Your attitude may determine whether a blind date goes good or bad.
10. When Love Begins
Harry Stack Sullivan a wise psychologist once said, "Love begins when a person finds another person?s needs to be as important as his own." This statement is as true as they come. True and deep love comes from finding others needs to be as important as your own.
Finding the ideal dating partner seems hopeless at times. Many people date one person after another in search of finding the "right" person. One characteristic that seems to matter the most is finding someone who shows us compassion. Compassionate people show care. They are kind and respectful of your opionions and feelings. Compassionate people realize that you have had pain and some suffering and still accept you for what you are.
12. Feeling Free To Be Yourself
Have you ever wondered if there are some fundamental keys to avoiding a bad dating relationship and ultimately a bad marriage? I believe one of the first keys to a healthy dating relationship is the feeling that we can always be ourself while dating. One of the most common "red flags" in the dating relationship is not being able to be yourself. Therefore, I suggest to all those who are dating that one of the first questions they should ask themself is, "Can I be myself in this relationship or do I have to mask some of my feelings?"
13. Getting A Date
Sometimes just getting a date is a success story for some people. If you fit in this category consider the following thoughts. First, what are you doing to increase your chances of getting a date? Second, are you preparing yourself to be a good dating partner? And third, do you have confidence in you? As you work on these three issues you will be more likely to succeed.
14. First Date Wisdom
First date? Be safe. If you are meeting someone through a personal ad face-to-face for the first time, be sure you do it in a public place for a limited period of time, like a coffee shop or a deli. Be sure it is at a time when there are a good amount of people around. Never have the person pick you up at your home.
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15 Different Perspective Of Love
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16 How Can I Tell If Someone Is Interested In Me?
Somewhere between 80-90% of all first dates come from two people showing each other a little attention. People typically do not ask someone out that they do not know. Therefore, if you want to ask someone out it is a good idea to try talking with the person first or try to get a little eye contact with them. In general, most people can get a feel for whether someone would want to date them or not. If you do not know whether the person is interested in you, take a little more time and try to interact with them before you ask them out. If you do this you are more likely to find out if they have interests in you. Do they respond to your attempts at communication? Do they flirt with you? Do they smile at you? Are they open with you? These are questions that will let you know if someone is interested in you.
17. Things To Avoid
Never take a first date to a party that your friends are throwing. This will put your date at a disadvantage, not knowing anyone
18. First Kiss
My first kiss I was so scared because I didn?t know how to kiss. I think my girlfriend knew it too. Fortunately she was patient. A first kiss is special because it is our first. You will remember who your first kiss was the rest of your life. My suggestions for first kisses are as follows: 1st) be confident--it isn?t difficult; 2nd) relax--seriously it is hard to kiss someone if you are tense; 3rd) look into their eyes first; 4th) don?t make it too short or too long as it is always a good idea to get a response; 5th) don?t be too aggressive; 6th) once you have started kissing talk, don?t just kiss.
19. Saying What Your Really Want To Say
Have you ever been talking to someone you are interested in dating and wished you had put your shoe in your mouth instead of saying anything at all? Or have you wanted to tell someone that you like them, but not known how to do it? If you have you are normal. Seriously, many people don?t always say things the way they want to say them. If you want to overcome this problem consider the following suggestions.
1st) Remember you will not always say things perfectly. Plan to make a few mistakes, but when you make a mistake don?t focus on it. If you pay a lot of attention to it others will as well.
2nd) Don?t overtalk. Most people make their biggest mistakes by saying more than they should. Listening can be your greatest asset.
3rd) If you don?t know what you want to say, take some time to evaluate what you are really wanting to say. This is very important in communicating your truest feelings. Many people say things before they process how they really feel. Your greatest advantage in communicating may be waiting to talk until you are clear on what you want to say. Some people find it is helpful to write down their thoughts so they can see them on paper.
4th) If you really like someone tell them. There is nothing wrong with being open and honest with someone. If they are a person who is worth your time they will either respond in a positive manner or they will politely decline your offer. No matter what if you are open and honest they will know how you feel.
20. What Should I Know?
First dates can create anxiety and good anticipation. Many people wonder what first dates should be like. What should be done and what should be avoided. Below are a couple of ideas to help you prepare for a GOOD first date.
1st) Be on time
2nd) Plan an activity that you have a chance to talk. A movie isn?t the best idea because you don?t get much of a chance to talk
3rd) Be attentive and ask questions.
4th) Find something in your date that you can compliment him/her on
5th) Know your boundaries--This may sound strange but on a first date it is good to show that you have physical boundaries
6th) Be respectful by getting your date home at a decent time--If your date has been outstanding this is still a good idea because it will make your date want you to go with you again.
21. How Can I Be Better At Dating?
Dating is a skill. It takes practice. It takes confidence. And it takes having a desire to be a better person. The better you are the better dating partner you can become. The following questions are designed to have you evaluate what you can do to be a better dating partner.
1st) What can I do to be a better person?
2nd) What character traits are my strengths?
3rd) How can I use my strengths to get dates?
4th) How can I meet people with similar values to mine?
Once you have completed this list, create a game plan to follow through so you improve in each of these areas.
22. Should you kiss on the first date?
Kissing on a first date is ultimately your choice. However, I would have you consider what messages you want to send to the person you are going to kiss. There isn?t an easy answer to this question, so here are some things you should consider before making your choice. 1) What type of image to you want to be known by---she kisses on first dates 2) What does kissing mean to you? 3) What does kissing mean to the guy you are dating? 4) Do you want to kiss this guy because you like him or are you just kissing for your own self? 5) Remember kissing is sending a message to the guy, he may interpret your kiss in a way you don?t want him to--or maybe not. Always remember kissing is something that is special. At least that is how I view it. It is also a lot of fun.
21. First Date Wisdom
First date? Be safe. If you are meeting someone through a personal ad face-to-face for the first time, be sure you do it in a public place for a limited period of time, like a coffee shop or a deli. Be sure it is at a time when there are a good amount of people around. Never have the person pick you up at your home
22. Should I Give Out My Phone Number?
Giving out your phone number online is something that you should spend some time thinking about. You might want to consider the following thoughts before you take the phone number plunge.
1st) How well do you know this person?
2nd) Can you trust this person?
3rd) Do you have any hesitations?
4th) Have you other evidence other than online discussions that this person is the person they say they are?
5th) Are they pushing you to give them your phone number?
6th) What are your instincts telling you about this person. I suggest you step back from the excitement and emotions of your interactions and ask yourself if you are comfortable with giving out your phone number.
7th) What are your personal rules for giving out your phone number. I suggest you create a game plan.
23. Be Careful
Online dating is relatively new. Most sites work to ensure the safety to those who submit personal information. Even with current efforts of these sites, it is important to not rush into anything serious as dating people online doesn?t give you a view of how the person is really. Online dating helps couples develop a relationship without learning to deal with everyday trials and frustrations. Therefore, I suggest that if you are going to date online, take your time and don?t set your expectations too high until you have seen this person in many situations.
24. Internet Dating
Are you listed on an Internet dating site yet? Many people are turning to Internet dating services as a way to increase their chances of meeting someone. There are many services that offer online dating experiences. However, before you join any dating service check out their monthly fees and if you can do a test run to make sure you like their setup.
Here are a few things that you should be watching for as you join the Internet dating scene.
1st) You need to determine how much information you are going to give out about yourself. For example, will you give your phone number out? How will you determine who to give your phone number to? Determine this in advance.
2nd) How many people will you talk to on the internet? Recently I was talking with a man who said he had to limit his internet conversations because he had over 20 people emailing him daily and it was overwhelming him.
3rd) Realize that internet dating can be like regular dating, it takes time to get to REALLY know someone. If you rush into any relationship you are putting yourself into a potentially vulnerable situation.
4th) When you are comfortable moving beyond the Internet scene, prepare for your first meeting by talking on the phone. Then for safety purposes meet in a public setting. This is just an important safety precaution that you should take.